"GCI READER: I’ve messaged you before about things, and you’ve always been very helpful. I helped out at a Christian Youth Camp this summer, it was my first time and a few weeks ago I got added to the FB page of all the leaders and such. Today I was scrolling down the page, looking at the jokes. prayer requests and the love shared between the leaders and it made me feel very happy. But scrolling further back, I found a post with nearly a hundred comments on. It was an argument about homosexuality and the Bible and churches. It was really awful to read. I understand that these issues sometimes need to be discussed, but it’s just made me struggle a lot. One person was saying they still loved gay people, but they believed same sex relationships was still wrong and it should be taught like that and preached in Churches. But I just hate the concept of “hate the sin, love the sinner” because of suicide rates and feelings of guilt within the LGBT community. No one should feel like that, and preaching that God loves them but they’re feelings and lifestyle are wrong is still hurtful. How can non-Christian gay people come to Christ if the Church is condemning their feelings/lifestyle while still proclaiming God loves them?? I’m just so confused and really upset with the post and with the Church as a whole. I’m not sure I could worship a homophobic God, but some people are so adamant that God doesn’t approve. I’m not even sure what I think anymore and I know you have debunked the Bible verses talking about gay sex/relationships but there is still no affirmation of gay relationships in the Bible. I just feel lost."
First of all, I have ZERO tolerance for any religious institution peddling anti-LGBT nonsense to our youth, and I hope you wouldn’t either. As you said, it causes them to be self-loathing, to self-harm (and not just physically), or to even commit suicide. As Archbishop Desmond Tutu says, I would refuse to worship a homophobic God. And I cannot believe that God sees things like these so-called Christians do. In fact, the Bible says God does not see as mortals see; they look at the outward appearance but God looks at the heart (1 Samuel 16:7).
Sometimes I get so mad at the state of the Church too. Too often, she only seems concerned with genitalia, uteri, or micromanaging peoples’ personal lives. Any of those things should be our last priority. There are people starving and on the streets, there are children being caught in gunfire on city streets, there are women being beaten and abused, the environment is being destroyed, and warmongering threatens to tear the world apart. So why is anyone concerned about what two consenting adults are doing? It’s shameful.
We need voices to stand up and boldly challenge the religious establishment’s thought process, because it’s seriously flawed. Won’t you be a voice? It won’t be easy, but we have to take back the Church.
Anonymous said: Seriously so grateful I stumbled onto this blog. I've struggled with my sexuality for a such a long time and I wish I could have seen this blog earlier. God works through people and I do believe He is working through you! Have a blessed night.
Anonymous said: can u give me the best advice you can? I want to come out but my school can kick you out if you show any signs of homosexuality or bisexuality, and my parents would never want to have to take me out of the school because it is a good school. they would be angry at me for that, especially since they are homophobic. I haven't told anybody about my being gay yet.
My best advice is not to come out yet given your circumstances. Wait until you’re independent of your family to come out. If you have any LGBT friends or allies, do come out to them so you have a support system until you’re on your own.
I’m sorry you have to stay in the closet. It’s not fair at all. But for now it’s probably best. Once you graduate you’ll have the liberty to make your own decisions and be who God has called you to be. Do well in school so you can get scholarships and attend the college of your choice without your parents forcing some conservative college on you and tormenting you for four more years. This way you can be out without fear of retaliation. There are scholarships for LGBT+ folks too, like the Point Foundation, so be sure to check that out as you near graduation.
Anonymous said: Hi, so I am a struggling Pansexual Christian coming from a very religious family and I've been feeling very miserable about myself. I've been praying and praying to God to help me. I feel that if I come out, my family won't accept me. I didn't choose to be this way and I hope they will realize that. I believe everything In the bible. I am a born again Christian and I know that practicing homosexuality is wrong but I'm only human, how am I supposed to be happy if I can marry someone.
Contrary to what you’ve been told, sexual diversity is part of God’s creation. God made us all a little bit different in certain aspects, yet essentially the same. And to be pansexual is just as normal as to have red hair. You have nothing to feel miserable about or to be ashamed of. It’s the people who tell you you’re wrong for being yourself who should be ashamed.
Perhaps you should wait until you’re independent of your family to come out. Stick with us and we’ll continue to uplift you and help you strengthen your faith. Be well.
Anonymous said: I've talked a lot with my science teacher, a friend of my mother's who is happily married to another woman and a devote Christian with a degree in Theology. She explained to me that in the original copies of the Bible (New Testament) written in Greek does not mention homosexuality as a sin. What do you know about this? Also, which passage of the Bible do people take as being anti-gay?
The psycho-social construct of sexual/romantic orientation and gender identity/expression were not theorized until the 19th century. The word ‘homosexual’ didn’t exist until that time either. In the Bible there are just a few obscure passages about pagan and idolatrous sex that are used as a justification for religious bigotry. They’re discussed in our Clobber Passages page.
any other queer Christians feel awkward about the term ‘pride’ or is it just me? i’m not against queer rights or anything - it’s just the name, specifically. like, i’m grateful for many things, but i’m not *proud* because everything i have is a gift from God, not something that i achieved. i don’t feel *proud* of God’s love - I feel thankful for it, moved by it, deeply reciprocal in regards to it, but not *proud* :/
Ellis, LGBT pride is about self-worth. Despite people telling us otherwise, we rise above adversity and realize that we are worthy of respect, worthy of love, even the love of God.
Our pride isn’t necessarily in our identity but in our resilience and our unity as people overcoming the same struggle.