societykillscreativity said: Hi! According to the Bible, premarital sex is a sin. Do you believe that same-sex couples should be abstinent if unmarried or abstinent all together? Do you believe that same-sex sexual activity is not sinful in the context of marriage? Thanks! God bless you!
It has always been our belief that sexual intimacy between persons of the same gender is not inherently sinful and LGBT people do not need to remain celibate. There is no theology backing up the argument that LGBT people should be celibate, only poorly justified man-made biases.
I think using an ancient text that reflects the cultural biases and norms of the time to inform one’s views on intimacy and its relation to marriage is not a good idea. According to the Bible, marriage is between:
- A man and his brother’s widow (Genesis 38:6-10)
- A man and multiple wives/or concubines (Abraham, Jacob, Solomon, others)
- A man and his rape victim (Deut 22:28-29)
- A man and his female slaves; male slaves got a little more dignity (Genesis 16)
- A male soldier and his prisoner of war (Numbers 31:18, Deut. 21:11-14)
- A man and his half sister (Abraham and Sarah)
- A man and his mother or sister, depending on your theological beliefs concerning Genesis
And realize that in the Bible and its time, it was all about men; women were more often than not property to be ‘enjoyed’ by men as they pleased.
To a large degree, I do not concern myself with what’s going on between peoples’ sheets (or elsewhere if they’re more adventurous). To the degree that I do concern myself, it is that the persons who are being intimate—regardless of gender— respect each other and recognize that their partner(s) is/are a human being and not an object of pleasure to be wantonly used and discarded without regard for their dignity or humanity; intimacy must be safe, consensual, and respect the other person or persons and their intentions. And because none of us are fully comfortable and because intimacy puts us in a place of high vulnerability, I highly caution intimacy with someone you do not know well and trust to treat you as you want to be treated.
Otherwise, I do not find it to be the place of any Christian to concern themselves with the intimate lives of anyone but their own self. It infuriates me that some Christians are too busy telling people what type of intimacy is allowed instead of helping the poor and the disenfranchised, being good stewards of God’s creation and demanding that the destruction of our Earth cease, or demanding an end to unnecessary war and violence.
If you’re concerned with someone else’s safe and consensual intimacy, you need to rethink your belief system. It is not anyone’s place but God’s to judge this extremely private part of a person’s life. And when a person does so, they neglect issues that are exponentially more important and that might not be as big of a problem if Christians focused as much attention on them as they do on consensual intimacy.
I’m grateful for the question and am surprised no one asked it sooner. —Enrique