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fvching-amaxing asked: I came out to my mom about 3 months ago. And ever since then she has been telling me that I'm going to Hell. I don't want to go to Hell but I want to be myself. What do I do

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gaychristian:

I personally don’t believe in Hell, a place of eternal damnation. I believe all people will be reconciled with God. This is known as (Trinitarian) Universalism. But that’s neither here nor there. 

Your mom is forgetting that John 3:16 says that whosoever believes in God…shall have eternal life. I am whosoever! You are whosoever! Another one of my favorite verses is 1 Samuel 16:7:

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I would mention both verses to her.

Your mom may continue to act childishly over your sexual orientation for a while; many parents do. But many parents also do eventually come around. For now, you just hold your head up and be proud of who are are. You are God’s beloved. In you God is well pleased.

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Wisdom 11: 24-25
For you love all things that are
and loathe nothing that you have made;
for you would not fashion what you hate. How could a thing remain unless you willed it or be preserved, had it not been called forth by you?

^^This is great!

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fvching-amaxing asked: I came out to my mom about 3 months ago. And ever since then she has been telling me that I'm going to Hell. I don't want to go to Hell but I want to be myself. What do I do

I personally don’t believe in Hell, a place of eternal damnation. I believe all people will be reconciled with God. This is known as (Trinitarian) Universalism. But that’s neither here nor there. 

Your mom is forgetting that John 3:16 says that whosoever believes in God…shall have eternal life. I am whosoever! You are whosoever! Another one of my favorite verses is 1 Samuel 16:7:

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I would mention both verses to her.

Your mom may continue to act childishly over your sexual orientation for a while; many parents do. But many parents also do eventually come around. For now, you just hold your head up and be proud of who are are. You are God’s beloved. In you God is well pleased.

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"I have a friend who has a much older boyfriend, and his mentality is severely outdated. Even though he is aware of my bisexuality he continues to use slurs towards other members of the LGBT community and gets hyper-defensive when I try to correct his attitude. His personal views are disrupting my friendship with someone I care about. How can I explain to him what he’s saying is hurtful?"

You should probably tell your friend that their partner is being a bit of a jerk and if their partner can’t respect you enough, you won’t be able to associate with them. 

Anyone else have anything to add?

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(via gaychristian)

I’m sure there are many opinions about what to do in this situation. If your friend values you and suddenly you stop coming around, they’ll wonder why. Then you could tell them it’s because of their rude partner. 

Ultimately it’s up to you though.

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iknowwhoholdstomorrow reblogged your post “I have a friend…" and added:

I wouldn’t automatically say ‘he’s a jerk’ even if he is, since that could make things more complicated right off the bat. Start by asking if they’d care to have a conversation - as hard as it is, be patient, if only for your friend’s sake, and try to make it clear that you are not attacking the partner as a person (even if you feel like doing so, because, yeah, you can totally be pissed/frustrated at this guy. resist the impulse to make it personal.) and try to explain that you find certain words he uses upsetting. Explain that this is holding both of you back by making it difficult to communicate, and that you could both have a more civil, positive, and productive relationship if you talked things out.

Then, and this may sound wild, but seriously, try asking him if there’s things that you say/do that upset him, and ask him to talk about it. Invite your friend to offer their input as well - what they find upsetting. Stay calm, even if the answer is something you don’t agree with, and try asking why he finds things upsetting. He may be defensive because he recognizes that he has issues with politically correct terms, and doesn’t know how to educate himself. This can be embarrassing, and if he feels attacked, especially because of the generational divide going on, then he may not know how to behave. He may appreciate having the opportunity to talk calmly about what he does and doesn’t understand, as well as what he finds hard to relate to.

If your friend chose this man, then he probably has some quality that’s desirable. You may not be seeing it because of the tension and animosity between you both. By extending an olive branch, you’re giving him the opportunity to rise to the level you’ve dictated, to be civil, to be a gentleman, and to actually show respect. If he does these things, then show him respect in return, and continue your friendship with your friend.

An example from my own life: my parents had some trouble dealing with my mental illness, so I introduced the concept of triggers to them. I said ‘when you do/say this, it hurts me.’ This was a great way to discuss how my panic attacks could be caused by words and behaviors they had never thought to be problematic. Then I invited them to do the same, and found out that when I cuss (which I do, a lot) it *REALLY* upsets my mother, specifically certain cuss words (c*nt, b*tch, etc.) I would not have known that I was inviting arguments had I not asked, and now, though I’m far from perfect at it, I make a real effort to keep from using those words around her, and when I do, I apologize since I know she finds it very upsetting. 

If this doesn’t work out, know that sometimes friendships go through hard times naturally. It’s not fun, and sometimes can be very painful, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that all is lost. Just try to be patient, forgiving, and calm, and to face these challenges head-on, with confidence and grace.

I’ll pray for you.
- Ellis