I want to change. and I have been forced to have a girlfriends but it doesn’t seem to happen. i don’t have chemistry … with guys is so simple for me to just talk to them. I feel lonely and I prefer to stay isolated. because I don’t anyone to think I’m gay. I decided to just remain celibate and wait for Jesus to come back. do you think I’m still gonna go to hell, even tho i am not sexually active but I do like and have loved men ??
Well as roman might mean to do, he is misdirected fundamentally. He has some very…interesting interpretations of Scripture that are not Biblically or historically valid. The most important one being that homosexuality is a sin, as well as a disorder, and that homosexual interaction in a loving and committed context is as well. The second most important is that God will change your sexual orientation, He wont (why should He “heal” what is neither a sickness nor a sin?). Even the founders of the most notorious “Ex-Gay” organization, Exodus International, have recanted their earlier claims that they were “healed”. If fact, all professional scientific studies show that homosexuality is not a disorder nor able to be “cured”. The American Psychiatric Association delisted homosexuality as a disease in 1973 (x), and internationally various mental health and medical associations have followed suit since then,
The primary element of your inquiry, however, is not of the scientific and medical aspect of homosexuality; it is the theological aspect.
Many Conservatives believe that homosexuality is a sin and should be harshly rebuke. Conversely, Christians like myself and others strongly reject that stance and in turn rebuke its proponents. Why? Because thoughtful analysis and exegesis of Scripture shows that homosexuality isn’t sinful and as such is not necessitating of “healing” or celibacy. Allow me to insert an excerpt from a piece I have written previously establishing my position:
Genesis 19 is often used to condemn homosexuals (where the term ‘Sodomites’ comes from). Often people assume Sodom and Gomorrah were destroyed for homosexuality, but this is false. Ezekiel says, “…This was the guilt of your sister Sodom: she and her daughters had pride, excess of food and prosperous ease, but did not aid the poor and needy. They were haughty and did abominable things before me; therefore I removed them when I saw it. (Ezekiel 16:46-50)” Not a word mentioned about homosexual acts (let alone homosexual orientation)! However, we can assume the lust and intent to rape seen in Genesis 19 was one of the ‘abominable’ things mention in Ezekiel.
Then we have the Levitical texts, Leviticus 18:22 and Leviticus 20:13. Both deal with homosexual acts, yes, but within a context! Leviticus 18 is prefaced with “’You shall not do what is done in the land of Egypt where you lived, nor are you to do what is done in the land of Canaan where I am bringing you; you shall not walk in their statutes. (Leviticus 18:3)”. This give a further context to the condemnation of the cult of Molech in 18:21, where child sacrifice is forbidden on both an ethical and religious level, and pagan practices in general. But it is also interesting that the Cult of Molech involved cult prostitution and temple rape, which is then condemned in Lev. 18:22 and 20:13. The acts committed within a non-consenting and pagan context were what were (and still are) condemned.
Romans 1:26-27 is unique in that it uses very specific language. This lays out clearly Paul’s view of what was natural for women and men sexually, and is the verse that is most often pointed to when arguing whether or not homosexuality is natural. Or does it? When looking at this passage, we should discuss the verse in its proper context. Paul describes these men and women first as people who have turned their backs on God. Paul says,
“For even though they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks, but they became futile in their speculations and their foolish heart was darkened. Professing to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the incorruptible God for an image in the form of corruptible man and of birds and four-footed animals and crawling creatures.”
These people had turned their backs on God, despite having once known him, choosing to worship man and beasts over the one true God. This is why they exchanged what was natural to them—heterosexual desires—for what was unnatural—homosexual desires.
Within its context, we learn that this passage is describing heterosexual men and women who turned their backs on God and then chose to go against their God-given sexualities and fornicate with each other. It takes knowing a gay Christian to really understand the next concept I’m going to platform, but bear with me if you don’t personally know someone who is GLB: It’s that practicing homosexuals do not give up their natural heterosexuality for homosexuality.
Next we see, 1 Corinthians 6:9 and 1 Timothy 1:9-10 used to condemn homosexuals. But we that there was no word for “homosexual/ity” in any language until 1868 when it was coined by German Psychiatrist Helmut Thielike in a critical response to a Prussian sodomy law. The word mistranslated as ‘homosexual/homosexual offender’ in certain Biblical translations, is ‘arsenokoitai’. A word meaning ‘man-bed’ (literally). It has been translated throughout history as ‘pervert’ (*the most accurate), ‘child molester’, and ‘masturbator’(during Martin Luther’s era; but that is also a mistranslation). ‘Pervert’ or ‘perversion’ is the best translation as the last time it was used in the Classical era (and specifically by a Classical church leader) in the 2nd Century AD to condemn men who were having anal sex with their wives. Not homosexual acts or homosexuality itself!
In fact it wasn’t until 360 years after Christ [and 330 years after St. Paul] that homosexuality was condemned (specifically against “born/natural eunuchs” in the official document that did so. Also seen in Matt. 19:12, where Christ briefly but does in fact, affirm the nature of male-homosexuals). This was done by St. Athanasius who blamed “natural/eunuchs” for civil unrest in Cisalpine Gaul and Milan. He suggested they be burned alive for their “sin” and, with Emperor Theodosius I under penance to him, had it so. Then the decree was posted to the Roman Hall of Minerva. So began an era of homophobia in the Church for the next 1800 years.
So here is what I suggest to you now: Don’t stay celibate or try to become “ex gay” for fear of living in what is badly misconstrued as a “sin”. Your sexual orientation does not merit your “living sin”. Nor would you being happily dating a member of the same-sex or having sexual relations with a same-sex partner in a loving and selfless marriage be “sinful”. If you were sleeping around and whatnot, then yes, that would be sinful. But all in all, homosexuals are no more sinful than are their heterosexual counterparts.
To that end, even IF homosexuality is a sin (which it clearly isn’t) then who’s to say you’ll go to hell? The blood of Jesus covers all things, and humans are perpetually living in sin no matter how hard we try not too (and you should try, of course)! That’s the whole reason He came! To save humanity from Judgement. Anyone who tells you otherwise is a pharisee and a false-Christian.
I pray that you will learn to accept who you are and live out the life God has planned for you. And never forget He loves you Deeply, and nothing can ever change that!